One of the most regular things clients reply when I ask them about their self-care routine is, there isn’t enough time. In addition to that, clients also confess that the times when/where they do take time and make themselves a priority, they are flooded with feelings of guilt about it. Somewhere along the way, thoughts about self-care changed from it being a means to recharge and renew to feeling that self-care is selfish, indulgent, or something that should only happen after everything else is done.
When asked their definition of self-care, many individuals think it consists of extended vacations, extravagant spa days and things of that nature. For some, that is how they rejuvenate and is considered part of their self-care routine. While these activities can be enjoyable to some, true self-care is often much simpler. It merely involves checking in with yourself and responding to your needs in healthy ways. When we engage in regular self care, we are able to show up more fully in our relationships, careers, and responsibilities. Taking care of yourself does not take away from others, it is simply you investing in yourself so that you can be present for those who mean the most to you.
The truth of the matter is that self-care is a necessary part of our lives. Just as the body requires sleep, water, and food to function daily, our mental requires regular consideration as well. Our minds and emotions need care and attention. It is not a luxury, it is a necessity. When we experience significant amounts of time when important needs are neglected for too long, the outcome is an experience including an increase in stress, irritability, exhaustion, anxiety, and even physical health concerns.
One way to shift the view of self-care and make it a top priority is to redefine what it means. Self-care is not earned, it is a basic need and deserves the same level of importance. Simply stated, it requires no justification. Another way to incorporate self-care into daily living is to start small. Consistency over time/duration should be the focal point starting out. Something as simple as ten minutes of deep breathing or taking time to listen to your favorite song in the middle of the day is a tiny step toward building self-care into your day guilt free.
Another important factor of self-care is setting healthy boundaries. Setting boundaries is a means of protecting your time and energy. Declining obligations, minimizing access to things and/or people that would otherwise deplete your energy are just two ways to protect your peace and create healthy boundaries so that you can engage in proper self-care.
Self-care is not selfish. It is the way you show respect to your mind, body, and overall emotional well-being and health. The best way to incorporate self-care into your regular and even daily routine is to create small habits that provide energy, support, and allow you to stay grounded.
