Imposter Syndrome is a phenomenon where one doubts their skills, talents, and accomplishments. This is usually accompanied by an intense fear of being exposed as fraudulent. Imposter Syndrome is described as an internalized fear of a lack of competence where you may not feel deserving of your success or capable of meeting the requirements of your success.
Imposter syndrome has a great impact on one’s self-esteem, one’s ability to perform to their capacity, and build authentic relationships due to a fear of being exposed. Although a lot of people who experience imposter syndrome are high achievers, ultimately, it can prevent your success from reaching its full capacity.
Imposter syndrome is not a diagnosis or mental illness, and it is not a deficit. There are many exterior contexts that contribute to the development of imposture syndrome that should be considered.
Research has shown that societal expectations can trigger imposter syndrome. A persons’ social status, social class, and societal messages received about their abilities all impact their self-esteem. Common sources that serve as confirmation and affirmation of who we are from watching commercials, participating in all social media platforms. Even our familial up bringing can influence our perceived abilities. There are certain communities and populations that may feel added pressure to “prove your worth” which contributes to the urge to overcompensate, second guess, and doubt their skills, intelligence, and abilities.
How do you overcome imposter syndrome?
Cognitive Restructuring is imperative. Here are a few tips:
Change your mindset. Acknowledge your expertise and constantly remind yourself that you belong! Things are not given; they are earned, and you’ve earned it! This may look like daily positive affirmations, accepting compliments from others when given, and not shying away from things that allow you to use your expertise.
Don’t compare. My grandmother used to say, “comparison is the thief of joy” and it is! Your gifts are yours; they are valid, needed, and particular to YOU. No one can replace it. Your unique experiences cannot be mimicked by anyone else. Lean into your differences from others and view it as an asset.
Give up perfection. Struggling with imposter syndrome makes mistakes and flaws intensify the fear of being exposed. Remind yourself that no one is perfect, and mistakes validate the fact that you are human and nothing else. A mistake can be thought provoking and enlightening. Asking yourself questions like: “What did I learn from this?” “How can I use this lesson in the future?” and allowing yourself to move forward by focusing on fixing what is within your locus of control.
The truth is, the imposter is our mindset that tricks us into believing that we are not capable, worthy, or knowledgeable enough. YOU deserve everything that you have been afforded and you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Your gifts will always make room for you! If you or someone you know wrestles with feeling like an imposter, we encourage you to reach out to us at Tx Harmony Counseling. Also, you can contact us through our website HERE. Let’s reaffirm together!
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